‘Tis the season for self-reflection. Social media sites are filled with notions of regret about missed opportunities during the past year, recollections of positive memories made, and resolutions about what everyone will do better the next time around. If the latter induces an automatic eye-roll from you, as it does for me, you may also be thinking, “I’m so tired of hearing ‘new year, new me!'”
With the flow of social change that spouted this year, from rights for same sex marriage to the Black Lives Matters movement, it is also important to note to ourselves that change can happen at any point, at your own pace. It has become a type of social trend to broadcast what improvements we’d like to make for ourselves as the calendar shifts, but these same goals are often forgotten two weeks into the new year.
In an age when sharing our successes is second-nature, I invite you to carefully consider what personal growth goals you would like to set for yourself—for yourself. Setting goals for positive affirmation from others and going with the trends in this regard is hardly productive in the long run, and you may very well find yourself back where you started, and distraught by the end of the year. With that in mind, stick to what you truly want to move towards and set a realistic pace for yourself. Remember, good things come with time, and keeping track of your progress can be a motivating method for maintaining your momentum. Instead of posting about what you want to achieve this year, consider journaling your experiences and reflecting on your progress. Comparison is the thief of joy, and basing your standards for progress on those of someone else is sure to discourage you.
As you set your sights on improving your health, becoming financially secure, and any other desires on the horizon, be sure to stick to your regimen and remember that change can come at any time, not only on January 1st.
Happy New Year!